What NOT to Say to Someone With Dementia

Dementia is a disease of the brain that impairs your memory and judgment.

It interferes with a person’s social skills, and thinking abilities, making it harder for them to function normally. Their brain does not process information like normal.

Speaking to a person with dementia takes patience and the ability to know what not to say.

Here are some things you should never say to someone with Dementia.

Do you remember?

When poised with this question, the person may get frustrated and angry because they can’t remember. This may cause irritation between you and them as you may not understand why they are so upset.

They may try so hard to remember and begin to cry when they just can’t remember the time, place, or person to whom you are referring.

So, please don’t ask an Alzheimer’s or Dementia person do you remember?

⇨ That person died years ago.

A person with dementia has no reality of time passed. To them “Uncle Joe” may have passed six years ago, but to them, Uncle Joe is still alive and kicking.

Sometimes, dementia patients can long for their parents, who have passed away many years ago, the best way to handle this situation is to ask them to tell you about their parents.

Do not tell the patient their parents have passed away, this could cause the patient less stress and anxiety.

⇨ You’re not right.

Dementia patients say things they believe are true, in their heads these things happened. The most important thing is to NOT disagree with them.

Most of the time what they are talking about has happened, but it was so long ago, you may have no idea it really happened.

⇨ Never argue with a dementia patient.

Should someone with dementia become angry and unruly and start arguing with you, do NOT argue back, try to redirect the conversation of the subject onto something pleasant.

The most important thing is to keep the patient calm and relaxed.

⇨ Talk simply.

Never use complex sentences, you will only confuse the person. Use simple, everyday words, as if you are talking to a child. The brain of a dementia patient cannot process or comprehend complex sentences and once again, the anxiety and frustration will become prevalent.

⇨ I told you.

Never point out that they are wrong. As in “you’re not right” the patient feels what they’re talking about really happened and it probably did before your time. Let them have it as long as it’s not hurting anyone.

⇨ Questions about their past.

Don’t ask a dementia patient questions about their past, they will become very anxious because they can’t remember. This leads to high-stress levels and could cause friction between you and them. Instead, ask if they’d like to hear about your past and where you grew up, etc.

What You Should not Say to Someone with Dementia?

How do you have a successful conversation with a dementia patient?

Go somewhere quiet without distractions, speak softly, quietly, and make eye contact. Speak in slow, short sentences, make sure you give them plenty of time to respond, remember, their brain takes longer to process.

BE PATIENT!!

Pay attention to your body language, use facial expressions and gestures to help with your point. Always stay in the present moment and stay positive!

And, above all, BE PATIENT!!!

If you need help or encouragement as a Caregiver give us a call at 386-847-2322 or check out our Caregiver Support Group. Our Senior Advisors are here to walk with you through this journey.

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