It is possible to manage your parent’s care from a distance and here’s how…
You may wonder how you can manage your parent’s care when you live in another state or even another country.
What is the first step?
First, decide what you CAN do for them!
- Can you take over their finances?
- Can you organize their doctor visits and transportation?
There is always something you can do for them no matter how far away you live thanks to technology.
Should you find it just too overwhelming for you, perhaps you need an advisor in the city where your parents live.
Please do NOT go to the internet and pick the first advisor you come across.
Some charge you money up-front, yes, BEFORE they do anything!!
Don’t fall prey to this kind of advisor.
An advisor should assist you free of charge unless you require an elder law attorney or a guardian.
The most important thing to ask your parents is what they want.
- Do they want to stay in their home?
- Do they want to move to an assisted living community?
Please don’t try to make the decision for them, you may think you know what they want, but do you really?
You may think they need in-home care when they really need assisted living.
While in-home care is great, it doesn’t take the place of peace of mind of someone there for them 24/7 should they require any assistance.
If there are a couple of children involved, plan a Zoom or Facetime meeting so everyone is on the same page as to what your parents want.
Once you all know what they want, you can agree on what parts each of you will play in the role of their care.
You can contribute to their care in ways you never think you can, whether it be taking care of their finances, home repairs, or making their doctor appointments, even the smallest task becomes a great deal.
Make sure you plan visits as often as possible, this is another place where an advisor comes in. An advisor can regularly check in on your parents to make sure they are doing well and give you updates.
If it’s impossible for you to visit, plan regularly scheduled phone calls and Skype or Facetime. As long as they know you care about them, it makes all the difference in the world.
Also, as long as you are checking on them regularly, they are more likely to do what they are supposed to do.
Also, have an emergency plan in place, have people in place who can get to your loved one in case you cannot get there right away.
Know where they are going to go and how they are going to get there.
Have a list of their current medications ready to take with them and have a bag of bathroom supplies ready to go on short notice.
When they are ready for an independent living, assisted living, or memory care community, look for a local placement service like Assisted Living Made Simple to guide you.
The local companies have the knowledge and expertise of the communities in the area.
When you are not near your parents and are trying to manage their care, it can be a challenge, but it doesn’t have to be.
With some planning and effort, you can ensure your loved one gets the assistance they need.